Our calm play was interrupted the other day when my two-year-old daughter began gesturing wildly at a corner in the garage and frantically yelling, “Man!” She was obviously disturbed and frightened.
“Man?” I asked, looking to where she was pointing.
“Man!” she yelled again.
“There’s no man there,” I cajoled. However, the hairs on my arms prickled as she insisted that the presence of a man in our garage was very real.
This was not the first time Bridget has acknowledged an invisible person. Months earlier, we were sitting on the kitchen floor playing a game when Bridget peered over my shoulder and began waving. “Hi,” she said, as if greeting a familiar friend. She then got up and ran into the dining room. “Hi,” she said again, looking at nothing in particular.
Similarly, there was a time Bridget and I were in the backyard playing when, all of a sudden, she burst from my arms and took off along the side of the house. “Hi man!” she called.
No one was outside. The road and yards were deserted. All was quiet. “Where’s the man?” I asked.
“There,” she pointed. “Hi man!”
I have never been inclined to believe in ghosts or anything associated with the supernatural; I am of a scientific mind, and there is very little I take on faith. I want to see it to believe it. But there’s just one nagging little detail that has been slowly chipping away my resistance to accept there is more that surrounds us than what we can actually see.
Long before Bridget was born and when my son was quite small, getting him to sleep at night was difficult. When Jacob was an infant, he required an extremely rigid bedtime routine that consisted of rocking and singing and patting and tiptoeing (curse those squeaky hardwood floors) that took nearly an hour to complete. After Jacob transitioned into a big bed, he insisted either my husband or me lie down with him until he fell asleep.
There were times, when I was in bed with him, that his room felt off to me. It did not feel completely safe, serene, or kid-friendly like my daughter’s room, and I could not quite put my finger on why that was. I secretly chastised myself for being so silly; I never voiced my feelings to my husband, and I certainly did not say anything to my children.
When Jacob was three years old, however, he said something that chilled me to the bone. I was lying in his bed, rubbing his back and gently stroking his hair, when he looked at me and whispered, “Sometimes there’s a person in my room.”
“What are you talking about?” I asked.
“Sometimes there’s a person in my room,” he repeated as he pointed to a darkened corner.
I was reminded of a time when I was no older than Jacob was. My mom and dad had gone out for the evening, and the girl across the street had come to baby-sit. No sooner had I been tucked into bed when, appearing in the corner of my room, was what I imagined to be a person. I distinctly remember screaming and high tailing it out of there, so scared was I!
Years later, my father would recount times of feeling a presence in the downstairs bedroom. Whether legitimate or told just to scare us girls, I do not know. One thing is for certain, my father succeeded in provoking a fear so profound that many nights I would lie completely buried under my covers with a pillow cushioned around my head, convinced I was hearing whispered voices and seeing apparitions in the dark. Thanks, dad.
After the obligatory I see dead people my husband suggested that Bridget, perhaps, is creating imaginary friends. Do 25-month-olds have imaginary friends? The times when she sees people are rare, but there is something so intense and precise about her gaze that leaves me wondering if she does, in fact, see someone.
I do not know much about this land on which our house is built, other than the fact that there used to be a railroad that ran through here, about a half-acre up the hill. In fact, we have often hiked the trail the railroad followed (the tracks are no longer there).
Could our “man” be a railroad laborer or a lost passenger?
Likewise, the vineyard a mile from our home sits on ground containing a pre-Civil War cemetery and stagecoach stop. This area is rife with historical significance, so who knows what is lurking out there?
While I am not a firm believer in ghosts, I do not disbelieve.

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August 31, 2007 at 8:53 am
melissa
I am a firm believer. Too may unexplaned things have happened to me and my family. Also, living in the south there are may stories of civil war ghosts in houses, and some incidents have happened to friends of mine involving them.
August 31, 2007 at 10:42 am
Gnorb
“While I am not a firm believer in ghosts, I do not disbelieve.”
You summed up my feelings on the matter exactly.
August 31, 2007 at 11:27 am
Robin
I think children are still open to many things that our sceptical adult minds refuse to see. Too many children have experiences like Bridget’s for it to be nothing.
August 31, 2007 at 11:43 am
Lance
I too am a believer. When my grandmother’s neighbor died (she was very close to me) she visited me in my room and said goodbye. I know this sounds silly, but I told my mom about the incident and, not an hour later, my mom got the call from my grandmother that Estelle (the neighbor) had died. So I have to believe.
August 31, 2007 at 11:54 am
Kathleen
I’m with you on this one. I don’t disbelieve. I do however have goosebumps as I type this!!
August 31, 2007 at 12:28 pm
Julie
Creepy!
I am the type of person that cannot even watch scary movies, otherwise I will have to sleep with the light on!
I’m not exactly sure if I think ghosts are real–or if they are some other “presence”. I do think that kids see a lot more than we do. You could think about it in a positive way. Maybe it was her guardian angel!
August 31, 2007 at 12:46 pm
Karen @ Simply A Musing Blog
Well, I am not of a scientific mind per se…I’ve never really tried to analyze things to that extent. However, I DO believe the Bible when it says “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” There have definitely been a few times when I’ve been with my kids in their rooms and have been seriously wiered out. My son is like your daughter and has “seen dead people”. I don’t doubt it.
August 31, 2007 at 12:47 pm
Karen @ Simply A Musing Blog
okay…that was supposed to be “wierded” out…I couldn’t see all of my comment when I was typing it. Sorry.
August 31, 2007 at 3:02 pm
Jen
I believe. There are. I know there are spirits. Whether they are ghosts or demons, who knows. My grandmother often told me about a ghost that would visit her home as a child. I just think there is too much seen and heard about to not believe.
August 31, 2007 at 6:02 pm
Damselfly
Ooh, that’s creepy!
August 31, 2007 at 10:17 pm
Sonya
Okay Melissa, Now I am all creeped out. How am I going to sleep tonight?! Children and animal see and feel things that we don’t. I do believe.
September 1, 2007 at 8:46 am
Kim
I think it’s quite possible for children to be inttuned to things that adults are incapable of. I had a few experiences when I was a child, and now as an adult, I smell roses everytime something monumental happens in my life…marriage, pregnancies, moves, etc. The big thing is probably not to be too alarmed when Bridget does have those experiences and she’ll be fine.
September 2, 2007 at 11:22 am
Lisa
I don’t believe in ghosts, but I don’t disbelieve either! I have too many friends who live in old houses that have seen or felt something. Thankfully we haven’t had any experiences like that in our house yet, so I doubt we will. We do have a poltergeist in our garage that fixes broken things because they just seem to miraculously start working again after a period of time :D.
September 7, 2007 at 12:59 am
Jewelle
Interesting. But you know what they say, children is more sensitive to presence like this. I’d say that the location of your house is a definite tell tale that he could really be seeing something. As long as whatever it is does not disturb, there shouldn’t be anything to worry I think.
October 2, 2007 at 12:09 am
justlovehim
Hmmmm….I was intrigued by this post. I actually made a little blog about it on my Myspace awhile back. I don’t believe in ghosts, per say…I am a Bible believer and the Bible talks of spirits, demons and angels, that sort of thing. If your child is seeing a demon, that’s creepy. Right? If she’s seeing an angel, that’s really cool. I don’t know… I don’t have an answer for this one.
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